Mommy Wars

It’s hard for me to believe that mommy wars are still occurring. Back in 1973, when I gave birth, the mommy wars didn’t exist yet. In my memoir, Following the Whispers I talk about how most women didn’t work and how ostracized I was for wanting something more than just being a mom, hence mommy wars.

Perhaps if I hadn’t been in a psychologically and emotionally abusive relationship, I might not have entered the mommy wars. But with no physical or emotional support, the challenge of caring for a newborn when I felt inadequate and unworthy to begin with, coupled with being put down, judged and criticized on a daily basis, fostered a depression that was difficult to overcome and forced me into the mommy wars. Thankfully, the joys of holding my sleeping child in my arms as I fed him in the middle of the night, and his little feet padding into my room later on to snuggle, kept my head above water until he was three and half and helped me avoid the mommy wars.

By then, I could no longer stay in a marriage that was destroying my soul. A bitter custody battle ensued—one which I lost. The mommy wars raged inside me for years, as I strove to build self-esteem through building my own business. Focusing on my own healing caused me to feel even guiltier than I already did, but in the end, it saved my sanity and my soul.

Following the Whispers explains those times. Not until a few years ago did I realize I wasn’t alone in the mommy wars when Oprah Winfrey did several shows on the mommy wars. Women from all walks of life shared conflicts about motherhood and work and my soul inched closer to wholeness.

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