Dysfunctional Families

Dysfunctional families come in all shapes and sizes. There are degrees of dysfunctional families as well. Growing up, I assumed my family was normal, not one of the dysfunctional families. In Following the Whispers a memoir about my coming from the dysfunctional families category, I outline the roles and dynamics that categorized my childhood.

My parents, both gone now, would be quite upset if they knew I included our family among dysfunctional families. They simply did what they knew based on how they were raised. As a child, I watched “The Donna Reed Show” and “Father Knows Best” and wanted my family to be like those, but as I know now, that’s impossible. Your family may not be among other dysfunctional families, but there is no such thing as the perfect family as depicted on those shows airing during the 1950’s and 60’s. Thank God for “Roseanne.”

The best we can hope for to avoid being dysfunctional families is awareness of what it means to be a good parent: observe consistent rules and guidelines; listen to your kids without judgment or criticism; find ways to communicate that don’t crush their self-esteem; encourage their passions and interests; and most of all, love them unconditionally. Perhaps, then, your children won’t pass along the dysfunctional families legacy.

Speaking of dysfunctional families, my son has already surpassed my legacy. At thirty-five,
he is extremely successful in his chosen career and doesn’t allow his childhood to interfere with pursuing his dreams. In Following the Whispers you will learn how this child suffered as a
result of my inadequacies. Dysfunctional families abound, and mine was no exception. But the legacy of dysfunctional families can end with awareness and change. My son is a perfect example of this.

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